I watched a YouTube clip of an interview with famous Indian actor Suneil Shetty. About Shah Rukh Khan, the "Badshah" of the Indian film world, he said: " He's a gentleman, charmer, not just for women, and he's the most secure man I have known."
Another actor, Johnny Lever, said of Shah Rukh Khan:" He is hard-working, especially when it comes to what he does not know."
I have always envisioned Shah Rukh Khan as playing my guardian angel with his wit and wisdom. During one of his interviews, Shah Rukh advised: " Approach problems with kindness."
Shah Rukh Khan is the epitome of success to an average Indian. He came from humble beginnings, faced dire financial straits, got a Master's degree, and pursued the love of his life. He has remained married to her until now. His life is his message.
Secure. Hard-working. Kind. Charming.
Shah Rukh Khan is the complete deal. I admit that I have not found his acting as compelling as Manoj Bajpai, my favorite Indian actor. However, I still admire Shah Rukh for his personal qualities and his journey to success.
Yet, there is much to learn from Shah Rukh as a symbol of success. His journey from humble beginnings to becoming the symbol of India on the international stage is truly inspiring.
I have reflected on why I am so selective about who I bring into my inner circle. I know the answer: I want to protect my energy. It's a conscious choice I make to empower myself and ensure I invest my energy in the right places. What I need to understand is if it is the right approach.
Shah Rukh and I are both Scorpios. Like him, I am an unlikely introvert. In an interview, Shah Rukh claimed he is introverted and shy. My need to avoid energy-draining individuals created a need to detach from those I perceived as inauthentic in my personal life.
I want to utilize my energy for good, or " Karma Yoga." I do not wish to spend time on fruitless conversations. It's fruitless to me but not to the person who wants to "share. These conversations are different from mutual sharing. What I mean by this is a one-sided conversation with someone who needs a professional therapist. In India, friends are there to listen to you and advise you. When I needed a sympathetic ear, I learned that it turns off people to listen to your troubles.
I learned to process issues, develop ways my mind could cope, take action, and move on—with kindness to those involved and me—no hard feelings. I like to say hard feelings are like giving away your hard-earned income to someone you dislike. Rent is expensive these days, and the room in one's mind is a loft with a view of the Hudson.
What is the role of a friend? I don't believe in blind support that reinforces another's flaws. I want courageous and insightful friends to point out my blind spots. I hope to be that friend to others. The problem is, most people don't want that. They want someone who reinforces their false beliefs.
Every one of us has a journey to make. A friend does not have to walk your journey for you. They can point you in the right direction if you are seeking it.
I highly recommend Carol Pearson's " The Hero Within" to help us understand our journey. It has been as impactful to me as the Five Love Languages.
At what point does one detach from an individual who shares ( or dumps) their problems without the motivation to solve them or at least take any action towards that?
Does that make me unkind? I wish I could get Shah Rukh Khan's perspective.
